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Perhaps all … wow, if you do, you guys are really awesome and I bow down to you ! But probably you are just ” too busy”, even though you know you should, but like so many of us, always come up with some excuse to ignore them …… !

” The ABC’s Good Relationship”

Always listen with your heart. Hear more than just what is being said.

Believe in yourself. Be understanding and accepting. No two people are alike: see each other’s point of view.

Communicate. As much as we’d like them to be, our parents aren’t  mind readers. Open up and don’t be afraid to show your feelings. Create an atmosphere where feelings are accepted and talked about.

Don’t be judge. Accept the other for who they are- the unique individual you fell in love with.

Expect happiness. Have fun. Allow humor to get you through some of life’s stresses.

Fear nothing. Trust in each other and the love you share. Together you can do anything.

Give of yourself : your time, your energy, your affection.

Help whenever you can by listening, caring, and doing.

Initiate affection, laughter, fun, and play.

Just be yourself. Don’t ever pretend to be what you aren’t.

Kiss and make up. Don’t hold a grudge.

Forgive and forget.

Love unconditionally, patiently, passionately, hopefully, and enduringly.

(If you can do all of these, you don’t need the rest of the alphabet! )

by Barbara Cage -

From my note again :  This is so amazing!  It touches my heart so much.  I wish I could do all these things, but even though it’s so easy to understand it’s so hard to put in to action.  I really want to thank the author for her great thoughts.  I wish we could all live like this!  No fighting, no arguing, no depression, no frustration…!  What a wonderful world we would all live in!

My note :

What rules our tongues on a daily basis?

Our words are turning out to be more or less like a serious “the weapon” – and powerful enough to pierce our hearts with a single bullet or like a machine guns with angry  sounds that prove to kill both of us!

What would you love more?  Praise or discouragement ,  Compliments or complaints ,  Blessings or curses ,  with grumpy face , frown face or smiley face? …. Soft and gentle –   gesture  to open the door with pleasent face with nice hug and wave your hands until he is gone, or just ignore -

We both wanted from each other “appreciation, compliments and something sweet, kind, thoughtful, encouraging those something positive words with courtesy ….
These  words are a lot like our daily  vitamins to  our soul !!  (By the way ,  it’s free and it is up to us to choose – we don’t have to buy them from anywhere-)  We all have them and they are dying to  wink, wink to us 24 hours, how awesome !

But sadly again we just ignored them, because our anger and hate make us blind, deaf …  Even myself is the first one -

So, how about from this moment, please call it  “daily vitamins for the soul”: 1-800-encouraging word. Operated by wink wink smile. Rule by : sweet, kindness, encourage, supported, less selfish, thoughtful, understand  … something positive life giving words ( pill) will flow out of our hearts to become habits for our relationship!

What would you say ?

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” Words are might tools for nurturing intimacy, maintaining unity, resolving conflict, and sharing hopes and dreams. Language the ability to express our deepest thought and sentiments and reveal our true inner selves through the spoken words, it is a beautiful gift from our loving Creator. We mustn’t neglects it!

Real communication goes beyond words : it includes eye contact, tone of voice, and body language.

And there are two main components to the act of communication : talking and listening. The latter is not a passive activity : it is an active process that should be practiced and mastered.

Learn to listen well, and you will be amazed at what you will discover in your spouses’s heart and soul”.

By  Kermit & La Rue Burrough -

” Become the kind of person who speaks truthfully but always in a way that is gracious and loving.

Your Language does not come across as unwholesome or demeaning, but rather encourage your partner and builds them up. Perhaps most importantly, you are never afraid to express your love, using words that all the more powerful because they are supported by your actions.”

By Sam & Mae Richiusa -

”   Let your love be stronger than your hate and anger.

Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend a little than to break.

Believe the best rather than the worst.

People have a way of living up and down to your opinion of them.

Remember that true friendship is the basic for any lasting relationship.

The person you choose to marry is deserving the courtesies and kindness you bestow on your friendships”.

Note:

Many times when things get tough or difficult, I just grab some books or search for answers from internet – So many wonderful, awesome articles, not sure which one to share first … This is one small note I wrote. This tiny note made me less selfish, and instead made me to understand the situation and comforted me. I am not a good at memorizing words, so started to take notes and stick them to my laptop or my diary notebook. I do not remember where and how long ago, I wrote this- but hopefully also tiny bit helpful. I think we all deserve to be loved by someone and loved by the others.

I don’t know about you, but for me, a relationship is the hardest assignment to do !